Inspire Me Today: Happiness is a Choice

Published on Inspire Me Today, May 17, 2006

Here’s what I know for sure, Happiness Is A Choice.

There is so much more we are capable of, and through mindset and beliefs, we have the power to design our life and choose happiness.

The hustle of life is filled with people, events, and stimuli, there’s no avoiding it.

The weather.
People at the coffee shop.
Eating dinner with the family.

Stimuli encountered throughout the day aren’t ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ they’re neutral, and often cannot be controlled.

Everyday, we are presented hundreds of situations. The beautiful part is that based on our beliefs, we have total self-power to choose how to view, approach and respond to the stimuli. We control our responses. We control our happiness. We can choose happy, peace and calm just as easily as we can choose anger, overwhelm and chaos.

Stimulus → Belief → Response.
(Events) (Your Thoughts) (Feelings & Action)

Allow me to illustrate with an example:

Stimulus: My 7 year-old son, Jackson, was diagnosed with severe autism. He is currently non-verbal, working on potty training, learning how to communicate through pictures, loves spinning and sprinkling objects, and would often rather play alone than interact with me.
(Nothing is good or bad about the stimulus, it’s neutral)

Belief: My belief surrounding Jackson’s Autism is that he is doing the best he can at any given moment, I love him for the amazing boy he is, and I cannot control the past or future. I am what I think, and I choose to ooze love and acceptance.

Response: I love Jackson in the present moment and celebrate him right where he’s at. I choose a calm, peaceful, authentic environment. I choose to love first and take action second. I choose happy.

Does my Belief and Response mean I stop advocating, researching and finding Jackson the top medical and behavioral interventions? Not a chance! I do everything in my power daily assist him to thrive to be the best he can be.

Following the Stimulus→Belief→Response method reminds me that I am in full control of my happiness and the design of my day. Nobody else controls my beliefs. I choose my thoughts, actions and responses, and thus, choose happiness.

With a decisive strong mindset, a conscious commitment to core beliefs, it’s simple to shift from clutter, chaos and overwhelm to a place of peace, calm and happy.

This I know for sure, Happiness Is A Choice.